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My morning pep talk:

Self growth happens when you don't settle for who you are and you believe you can be better, you can live better.

There is no shortcut to success other than working hard, it is not a day's work, success is written when you do it consistently, when you don't give up on your goal.

You will never be happy if your happiness depends upon pleasing others. It is a fact. Be kind to others but don't let their expectations guide you. Or don't fall victim to your own expectations of them.

It is okay to not be loved, it is okay to be forgotten, it is okay to miss someone who doesn't feel for you as much. Maybe the reason you're missing them is, they are not available. It could be simply the lack of attention. Try detaching your emotions from your physical needs. Sometimes, we feel lonely because we are horny. We are not mentally attached, we are physically craving. It is okay, it is biological.

It is okay to take a break from a routine. There should always be a room for playing around, getting creative, get on a new project that might hamper your sleep or your usual routine. Let your heart feed on your passion. 

You don't have to validate someone just so that they stay in your life. If someone truly cares for you, they wouldn't need validation to stay. They would find good enough reasons to stay.

If someone is pushing you away, it is not because you lack something in yourself. It maybe because they are going through their own personal battle and they don't want you right now. Respect it, move away, back off. Let them have their space. They will come back to you when they're ready. And meanwhile, don't brood over them or what you could do to make things right.

We criticize harshly of ourselves. Take your focus on other things. Be busy. Don't let the mind boost on your insecurities, instead, invest the energy on good things, kind things.

It is okay to be kind and sensitive. Don't try to blend in. Be proud of your unique attributes and reflect it, flaunt it without being apologetic. Don't think just because you are humane, you have no space in the industry, you definitely have places where you can fit your personality and shine bright. Don't ever think you are not right for the job, instead believe that-the job is not right for you. 

Most importantly love everything about yourself. Even the uncomfortable part. The ugly part. The not so lovable part.

I know it is easier said than done, but have patience in the process. Maintain consistency. Don't give up.

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