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Last night I had this midnight talk with my father and he shared his stories with me. I asked him if he were determined to be an engineer when he was younger. The answer was in affirmative, he was very passionate from the very start of his youth. My father was born in a village and lived in a free environment, where he could go fishing middle of the day, dive into canal water and make spit ball gun with hijal and climb trees and run poultry in his humble house where he used to live with 5 other siblings. He told me about his primary school. It was in one room with 5 benches. Every bench signified a class, so he had to sit in class with kindergartens and classes up to five...He said his high school was standard however, it was in Nobabgonj and he studied a very good deal there.

So when did he realize he wanted to be an engineer?
He used to make objects out of clays. He said one time he made a mouse out of it, shaped a tail almost as real and everyone was praising him. He once made a motor ship with clever tech works I hardly could believe how he did that in that age with no wifi and youtube. So he was being praised for this superb talent that he had and people used to call him Engineer. That stroke as a strong inspiration and one time he came across this book in his school library which was written for higher education on an engineering subject, and he said to himself- "I will read this when I get older."

I was shocked by how much passion this man harbored since a young age. Look at me, I am his daughter and I don't have a clue what to do with my life.
I told him how insecure I feel at times and he told me it's okay. He said-  "Do you have any idea  from where I started? I came as a village boy and then  I was doing job in a multinational company. Had to deal with foreigners, diplomatics, hypocrites. It was completely different from the place I came. But hadn't I been great? Didn't I do my job well enough? And you are a city girl in a city and still you fear you won't fit in? Don't worry you'll do just fine."
  He gave me advise how to be diplomatic, how to form a habit of leadership, how to engage with people, how to read people's body language, how to identify hypocrites, how to always follow the SWOT analysis rule in life which we study in business. And it kind of boosted my mood, I wasn't scared anymore to handle life and look out for the future.










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