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So resigned my job. I needed one month to at least organize everything. 
I feel so lazy though. I haven't even started packing my suitcase. 
It kind of feels surreal. This uncertainty of what my life would be like 
in a new place is sort of eating me. I have been so anxious lately. 
I know it is normal. Mostly, financially I have been worrying a lot. 
My husband has a job but since I was also working here, I didn't need
allowance from him. He did send me from time to time but I sort of felt 
uncomfortable asking from him. He also doesn't want me to be dependent 
on him. It sort of caused this friction in us couple of times where I would 
expect he would be a provider. I can't blame him for it because since day 1
he has been clear on the fact that I have to be working, share expense, and we 
would have a joint account where we would save up for the future. 
I have some fears about not finding work abroad. There is cultural differences 
and also having low self esteem does not work. I really have to apply myself 
there. I guess my fear is that he would not be so delighted bearing all my 
expenses. I also want to stay independent. Being able to pay for myself is 
a great feeling and I don't want to be a burden on someone to be honest.
I need to work hard and apply myself more. 
I will do that. 

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