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Why is it important to seek closure. Why it important to have a healthy discussion over things that took space in your mind for days and making you lose apatite. 

Trust me, it's all worth it. It's going to give you a full night's sleep and an end to emotional draining thoughts.


I had been talking with this guy for like more than a month and we were mostly lusting over each other. We both knew we did not see a future together. It started to get confusing and at some point intense. I liked him but the idea of "us" did not make sense. However, I could not stop talking with him. We could not go on a date due to lockdown. I was kind of hoping secretly we don't. I did not want to get more attached. He is a decent guy and amidst some bad days and some good days, he was there for me. I will miss him. I am also glad it is over between us. I need to keep searching for the love and if I get stuck like this, I would not be able to find love.

The most amazing thing was that I had a closure from him. He was probably the first person in my life ever, who respected me enough to give me that conversation. I was not ghosted or been ignored with a text or trying to be told that I am not relationship worthy, I am just someone to have a good fuck. He legit just told me everything I wanted to hear. Everything that I rehearsed today to say to him. That we both want different things and we are going to hurt each other if we get more involved. I did not want to text it because I felt like I needed him to hear this and he needs to tell me this.

Well I am crying now but I feel like this heavy thing that was staying there for about a week in my chest, lifted off. I feel free and ready to move on with my painful search. This whole "soul mate" searching has given me so much actually. I got to know these individuals who taught how emotional I can be for people and that I have so much love to give. I feel this warmth and I acknowledge myself even more, my empathy, my self that I did not think existed before. 

I am so happy I had my first "formal" virtual break up haha! I just feel like I have grown. I am finally living the adult life!





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