The Self Love Experiment-Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself by Shannon Kaiser
This is actually one of the realistic self-help books that I've read, there was no sugar-coating and the author actually kept it pretty raw and tried to reflect her struggles with self-love and insecurities. This book is more like learning to reflect on her reflections. I liked the positive affirmations on each parts of the book and I gotta say, this was empowering. I felt something really shift inside me. I think universe is trying to send me a message this year and I've been notified, more and more, about the fact that I have to love myself. Even the guy I had fling with, brought up the concept in between our late night conversations, he said once, "You don't love yourself. When you do, I'll be there." And it still rings in my head from time to time. Since the day we broke it off, I knew what I needed to work on. Self healing and self love. And it was a sign from the universe, I needed him to stop calling me, I needed him to give me validation because I needed to validate myself, I needed to feel enough the way I am. He was just a mere energy the universe sent to me, so that, I could work on being kind to me. Because I've been so ignorant of it, I've been so insecure and jealous and full of sadness that pulled me back from my core self and didn't let me enjoy and celebrate myself. It is weird how, everything is so connected. Week after week I cried over him and I reached out to my sister and she said the same thing to me, it's like the universe is so reluctant to send me this message. And I automatically turned to the internet for any self-help books I could find. And this one caught my reading eye. I absolutely loved reading each part as it spoke to me, like a calling. These are some notes I highlighted from the book, I like to keep it here so I can read again and again for my mind to absorb their weight and implement it on my life. Self-love is complex, it's not so easy to accomplish reading a book but it sure can help with making you more optimistic. And it is a baby step to loving thyself and I am all about baby steps now. There's no manual to follow to love yourself. You just have to find ways, that you feel right... Books are like salad on the side. The main course is your heart's calling.
This is actually one of the realistic self-help books that I've read, there was no sugar-coating and the author actually kept it pretty raw and tried to reflect her struggles with self-love and insecurities. This book is more like learning to reflect on her reflections. I liked the positive affirmations on each parts of the book and I gotta say, this was empowering. I felt something really shift inside me. I think universe is trying to send me a message this year and I've been notified, more and more, about the fact that I have to love myself. Even the guy I had fling with, brought up the concept in between our late night conversations, he said once, "You don't love yourself. When you do, I'll be there." And it still rings in my head from time to time. Since the day we broke it off, I knew what I needed to work on. Self healing and self love. And it was a sign from the universe, I needed him to stop calling me, I needed him to give me validation because I needed to validate myself, I needed to feel enough the way I am. He was just a mere energy the universe sent to me, so that, I could work on being kind to me. Because I've been so ignorant of it, I've been so insecure and jealous and full of sadness that pulled me back from my core self and didn't let me enjoy and celebrate myself. It is weird how, everything is so connected. Week after week I cried over him and I reached out to my sister and she said the same thing to me, it's like the universe is so reluctant to send me this message. And I automatically turned to the internet for any self-help books I could find. And this one caught my reading eye. I absolutely loved reading each part as it spoke to me, like a calling. These are some notes I highlighted from the book, I like to keep it here so I can read again and again for my mind to absorb their weight and implement it on my life. Self-love is complex, it's not so easy to accomplish reading a book but it sure can help with making you more optimistic. And it is a baby step to loving thyself and I am all about baby steps now. There's no manual to follow to love yourself. You just have to find ways, that you feel right... Books are like salad on the side. The main course is your heart's calling.
We can't reach new heights if we stay comfortable.
Let the hard things in life break you. Let them affect you. Let them change you. Let these hard moments inform you. Let this pain be your teacher. The experiences of your life are trying to tell you something about yourself. Don’t cop out on that. Don’t run away and hide under your covers. Lean into it.
The real challenge is learning to see we are whole and complete in this moment. Just as we are sitting here right now, we are enough. Those dreams are nice to have, but they don’t make or break us. Life is the process and unfolding of glorious challenges filled with moments of inspiration. We just need to recognize this truth.
When we stop pushing against life and lean into what is, we become more aware and focused.
I really had only two choices: change what I couldn’t accept, or accept what I couldn’t change
The more me I show, the more my dreams will grow!” “
The more me I show, the more my relationships will flow.” “The more me I show, the easier my life will flow.” Try it out—this is a powerful mantra you can use in your own life to overcome insecurities and setbacks.
What you hate about yourself is in your head. You are not the nasty things you say about yourself. You are so much more. Allow yourself to show up fully and be who you are, all of you as you are.
When you reveal your authentic self, the world will reveal back.When you show up consistently for yourself, you will start to see results. This is a beautiful process that will help you stay on track.
Self-love is about showing up for you and your dreams. This means that the reasons you start something are way more important than the results you see.I call this approach to life “reason over results.” Focus on your reasons for doing something instead of on the results.that is what fear does.
It comes in and tries to convince us to stop. When we act on inspiration, when we push forward without seeing real results, the ego will do everything in its power to try to get you to quit. This is when you roll up your sleeves and pull out your motivation by returning to your why.
The experience is the reward; the outcome is not as important
there is an active vibration that is holding what you really want out at arm’s length, holding it away from you. In order to manifest what you really want, you must align your energy to your desire. This means you act and behave as if it is already here.When we stop tunnel visioning the problems in our lives, the problems can work themselves out.
Grasp the good, focus on what is going well in your life, do everything in your power to stop thinking about the problems, and as you turn your attention away, they, too, will go away.
The goal is to achieve balance with your true self, not with what others think is best for you or with what the world says is ideal. Align yourself with your heart’s center, and the reward is living a life you are in love with. You honor the rhythm of your own soul.
At the end of your life, the weight struggles, the food wars, or the obsession with new diets and trying to look a certain way will have no relevance. The only thing that matters is what is in your heart. How you make people feel and how you make you feel are more important than how you look.
The fear of being alone strikes the heart and makes many people settle. But when you learn to love your own company, you will see that you are never really lonely.
By knowing that the universe is working on a plan greater than yours and everything that happens is always for your highest good, you can relax a little more into the natural rhythm of your life.
Remember: what you want, wants you, too,remember you are more you today than you were yesterday. Every day we learn and grow and get more pieces to the life puzzle, so each day is an opportunity to move forward with more grace and ease. You may feel off track, but you were never on a track
.As related in the life-changing book A Course in Miracles, all fear is false. We verify this when we step out of our comfort zone and suddenly our fears disappear. Fear goes away as soon as you step up and address it. This is what showing up for our doubts really means.
Our perception is our reality. And I changed my perception from “I feel like an outsider and don’t fit in” to “I love myself, and I am enough as I am.”
The Power of Receiving: A Revolutionary Approach to Giving Yourself the Life You Want and Deserve by Amanda Owen. The author says that women especially are reluctant to embrace philosophies that ask them to promote their needs over others. But receiving is a skill that can be learned; it can be developed and strengthened over time.The more you you show, the more your life will flow.
\“Whose love did you crave most growing up?” I encourage you to ask yourself this key question, as it can lead to a breakthrough.
Who can you thank? Who hurt you so much that you had to change and learn how to adopt new ways of being? Instead of blaming this person for all the pain, why not thank them for all the good as well?
IMAGINE, IF YOU WILL, that everything in your life is orchestrated by design for you. Every person you meet is a character in your life adventure, every situation is in your life to help with the plot and create a little drama and a good twist. Perhaps the most riveting principle is to understand that situations, problems, and things don’t happen to you, but they do indeed happen for you. The beauty of this concept is that everything you are going through, everything you have gone through, and everything you will go through is part of a bigger plan. It is essentially all for you. Everything in our life is by design, to give us lessons and opportunities to apply our knowledge to new situations. Neale Donald Walsch says it wonderfully:
It is okay to be at a place of struggle. Struggle is just another word for growth. Even the most evolved beings find themselves in a place of struggle now and then. In fact, struggle is a sure sign to them they are expanding; it is their indication of real and important progress. The only one who doesn’t struggle is the one who doesn’t grow. So if you are struggling right now, see it as a terrific sign—celebrate your struggle.19
We attract what we put out into the world.
Remember that what you want, wants you, too. With this belief, you will be unstoppable.
My relationships were transitory, and my self-esteem was based on the person I was with. In past relationships, I was desperate to feel loved and therefore ignored every red flag. I was the girl who sacrificed everything in an effort to please my man.
I wanted love so much that I convinced myself that this was how relationships were supposed to work.
Comparing yourself to others is not the way to heal yourself. You have your own unique journey and plan. Your healing is not dependent on anything other than your own willingness to show up and be present for your own life.
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