Skip to main content
You could die of a fish bone stuck in your throat, and the last words you hear from your father had to be - Can't you eat more carefully for god's sake? Are you blind?!
 I thought I was dying for real, and the fact that I was making my parents disappointed in me even at the last min had killed me hypothetically twice inside before the fish bone ever could.

Why can't my parents be happy for once, proud for once that I was born?
Why do I always have to be reminded of all my misdoings and failures in life by them?
Why can't they understand, people's successes aren't inter-related, they are depended on individual's dedication, hard work, talents and skills and just because some people found the door to success that does not mean, I lack in my own experience and skills?

I cannot blame them for being who they are, they are brainwashed by the society. What hurts me most is, they once were my age, They must've known the struggles. The depressions, the changes we go through with every mistakes and failures. Yet they act like, they were never there.
Their lives were simpler. Our lives are more complex and dynamic. Time is different. But we are same genes. Same blood. They should be more considerate knowing that I am their daughter and it is equally hard for me to learn to fit in the society and gain respect.

Relax. I am not frustrated, even so I sound. I am not holding grudge against my parents, I know their actions only define how much blindly they care about me and my brother. But the process is just unhealthy. Maybe for my next generation, I will correct it. It is the easier way out. Since I am not ready to be a mother now, I take all their silliness and over protectiveness as lessons today and maybe someday, I will be better at parenting my kids than my parents ever were.

On a different note, I have finals next month. This semester is ending so soon. I might have lost one A, but the other two I still may have chance to save. Good luck to me.









Comments

Popular posts from this blog

"Because nothing makes me happier and nothing makes me sadder than you.”

“If I had a camera," I said, "I'd take a picture of you every day. That way I'd remember how you looked every single day of your life." "I look exactly the same." "No, you don't. You're changing all the time. Every day a tiny bit. If I could, I'd keep a record of it all." "If you're so smart, how did I change today?" "You got a fraction of a millimeter taller, for one thing. Your hair grew a fraction of a millimeter longer. And your breasts grew a fraction of a—" "They did not!" "Yes, they did." "Did NOT." "Did too." "What else, you big pig?" "You got a little happier and also a little sadder." "Meaning they cancel out each other, leaving me exactly the same." "Not at all. The fact that you got a little happier today doesn't change the fact that you also become a little sadder. Every day you become a little more of both, which me...

v day

 I am in luteal phase and everything my husband doing is irritating me.  It is all scientific I know but still everything is so annoying and I just wanted pizza. He ordered biryani.  I wanted to go on a date on valentines day. He brought me flowers, which was sweet but he forgot to book the restaurant and we ended up going costco instead. I just feel like I am wasting my best years on him. Is it normal to feel like that. We are almost 2 years into our married life and I already miss our initial chemistry. I feel like we are being like an old married couple. It shouldn't feel like that, right? I mean, it is still new; we aren't that old yet.  I feel so bored honestly, and disappointed.  Again, this could be because of my luteal phase.  I am sad too.  I wish, he made a little more effort to make me feel special. Make me feel deserving. I wish I didn't dress up to do our groceries on Valentines day. 

opposite sides of a coin

Hi B,  I've been sort of busy with the training for the job and have another interview coming tomorrow. I am torn between staying with the current job and switching or keeping both as part times. I don't know, I guess I will have a decision made if the interview goes well. I have been traveling far for the current one and every time I get on the bus or the the train I feel depression kicking in full force. Suddenly I remember home, the comfort of being around my loved ones, the easy life I once had back in Bangladesh. Certainly, there are things that weren't easy but I guess it felt easy because I was more used to it. Transport was rickshaw and didn't even think twice before booking an uber because I always had some money with me. Now I have literally 200 dollars to go by and I have to think twice to even buy a cup of coffee or a piece of bread. I guess with time, I will be able to save up some money. I am glad at least I got to start working. It is still very overwhelm...